Since yesterday was Valentine’s Day I wanted to talk about love. This week in my Facebook group we’re talking about love. Specifically self-love. I’ve challenged them to list 5 things they like about themselves every day this week. Why? Because in order to really be able to receive love or find the right partner, we first have to love ourselves. Love comes from within, and when we don’t like ourselves it’s really hard to love ourselves.

A challenge for you

So while it may feel weird or difficult or downright uncomfortable I’m challenging all of you lovely superheroes (yes, you) to write down 5 things you like about yourself. It can be anything, maybe it’s that awesome at your job, or how great your butt looks from all those squats and hip thrusts, or you’re an awesome mom. Maybe you love that you take time for yourself, or you’re an awesome baker or dancer or writer. It can be prettty much anything.

I don’t ever post exclusive content from my group on other platforms but I’m making an exception this week. Why? because I think it’s soooo incredibly important to work on your self-esteem and self-worth and to have a positive relationship with yourself. Whether you constantly find yourself looking for love in all the wrong places or you’re like ‘Of course I like me, I’m awesome’ (because you are!) I think this is a great exercise for everyone.

I get it

This is something I struggled with a lot over the years. If you’ve been following me for a while you know I’ve dealt with negative body image and a not-so-great relationship with food. Not surprisingly that extended to my love life as well. I realized that I was falling into the same cycle over and over, going for the guys who were all wrong or not worthy of my attention. I finally decided I didn’t want to live my life in an unhealthy cycle of unhealthy relationships. So I took a break from dating for two years. Yep, two whole years. It was actually almost two years to the date.

What did I do during that time?

I focused on growing my business, focused on powerlifting, and most importantly, learning to like me for me. As a result, I’ve entered back into the dating world a more confident and secure version of me. I recognize that if a man doesn’t call when he said he

I recognize that if a man doesn’t call when he said he would or his actions don’t align with his words, that’s on him, not me; I won’t make excuses for someone who doesn’t do what they say they will. I’m not going to chase a guy down. If he say’s he’s going to text and he doesn’t I’m not going to chase him down. If he’s really interested he’ll make the effort and if he’s not making the effort, he’s not really interested. I don’t have the time or energy to be someone’s option and neither should you.

Start taking time for you

Meditate, read in the park, take yourself to dinner, try a new dance class, eat the foods that make you feel good. The more time you spend working on you, the easier it is to talk about yourself because the more you know yourself the more likely you are to realize how awesome you truly are. Remember, you’re stuck with you so it’s probably a good idea to get to know and like yourself. It’s the most important relationship you’ll ever have.

I would love to hear how it goes. And if you want more challenges, workouts, recipes, and other awesomeness I don’t post anywhere else, pop on over to my FB group.

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